Advice.
Thursday, March 17, 2011 @ 3:45 PM

I've been in love once, or maybe never. It's completely and utterly different from a crush (of which I've had dozens), and it hasn’t occurred in all of my relationships. You'll know it when you see it though. It's more than an infatuation. It's a feeling that completely envelops you for a long period of time. It's wonderful and scary, and it hits you all at once. You think about the person all the time, and you will always want to be with them. If you're apart from each other, reuniting is the best thing in the world. In my experience it's somewhat of an addiction. But a wonderful and natural addiction.

You'll know for sure when love ends. It won't just happen, you'll feel it, deep within your heart. My first and only love ended because, well I still don't quite know, but it was for the better. The break up took me months to get over. It feels like a death, and it haunts you. You'll still feel it and dream about it, but you know you'll never be able to feel it again with that person. It sucks so hard, but maybe it's worth it.

With all of this being said, don't feel lonely. Some of the best times in my life have been when I'm completely single. If nothing's happening romantically at the moment, you can really get to know yourself. In the long run this will help you to find the person who's right for you. Also don't beat yourself up when someday you actually do fall in love and it doesn't work out. This happens all the time, and it's disappointing but those heartbreak periods can also be great times to reconnect with yourself and with other friends you may have lost touch with while you were in the relationship. With everything, you have to give yourself time. Don't ever force or rush falling in love or falling out of love. This is the best advice I can give you.