"Which one should I give up?"
Friday, February 11, 2011 @ 4:20 PM

I think every girl will come across a boyfriend that is way too controlling at least once in their life time. They'll demand your attention, your time, and possibly even ask you to give up your friends for them. Choosing is hard, especially between things that are important to you. So which would you pick? Your friends or your lover?

To make things more understandable, here's one scenario:

You have guy friends that are close to you, but you'll never look at them as boyfriend material. Your boyfriend is the only one for you, and you love him more than anyone. Sad thing is, he doesn't believe you. He can't trust you, so he makes you choose. "It's either me or them. Your pick."

Now of course, your stupid love-filled mind would want to pick your boyfriend over your friends. "He's more important." But guess what, relationships like that never work out. If there's no trust, there's no love, no affection, there's nothing. He's constantly worrying and paranoid about you, even after you've tried to explain yourself a million times. Getting rid of your guy friends won't solve anything. He's just looking for momentary comfort, because he's always doubting you. Without all your friends, he doesn't have to worry. He's being selfish. He says he'll learn to trust you, but that'll never happen. Plus, how will he ever trust you if he's never given you a chance to prove that you're trustworthy? If he really loved you, he wouldn't make you decide. He wouldn't make you pick. He wouldn't complicate your life.

Back to the question, "Which one should I give up?" Drop him. Break up with him before he gets even more possessive of you. Once you let him in, he'll start getting comfortable. He'll boss you around and even begin to threaten you. Your relationship will become unrepairable. It'll become abusive and you'll eventually lose everything. Friends are forever, boyfriends don't ever last as long as you want it to. You've probably heard that many times, and it's true. Leave before you get hurt, or trust me, you'll regret it.

Labels: Coming from experience, Never again will I go through this shit.